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SADHANA OF LOVEby Chennai based K.B.Gopalakrishnan 27th November, 2007 12:00pm
Every one is doing the sadhana, whether one likes it or not. Believe it or not sadhana is on. Many people are not seeking god but they are seeking love. God is love. Reality has two sides. The formless side is the god and the form side is love. Since we cannot understand love in totality we choose a form name, gender, role, personality to understand on love. For example marriage is a way to understand love, being a parent is way of understanding love, and bottom line of being boss or employee is learning on love. These are different rules, roles and parameters we set to understand love. Love is usually associated with heart level. There are different ways of understanding this. Love gets expressed as passion in sexual level, compassion in heart level, understanding and sensitivity in intellectual level. Even if some one is seeking money or power or fame they are seeking love only. Money is understanding the earthly aspect of love, power is the fire aspect of love, fame is water aspect of love, and air aspect of love is knowledge and understanding of the universe. The ether aspect of love is the love for divine. We also try to master love with an act. See a musician they are trying to understand the sound and rhythm aspect of love. Take a painter they are trying to find the color aspect of love, poet are trying express love with words. Some people love ideas, some people love people, some people love object. In day-to-day interaction we tend to classify love, which is object oriented as less and of people as more. Love will come to any one’s heart when they choose the quality of warmth, kindness, making other greater than themselves, giving more and receiving less, gratitude or physical act such as hugging, kissing, touching some one’s head. Appreciation is love and when many people appreciate you, one feels fulfilled, satisfied and contended. It will look like purpose of life is completed. That is why many people seek fame. Love can never expressed enough there is always a lacuna between what we feel how we express it. Just like swami Ravi Shankar” it is never enough to express love. What ever we do in the name of love there is limitation”. Many people due to the personality, role, and gender have many delusions. One of them is wanting the other person like us. Love is the spirit or soul level is on oneness. When we come to form level there is law of uniqueness which operates. There fore one can make other person like us in the form or worldly or physical level. Just like every one will be different from us in face, so they will be in personality. Many of us confuse between soul love and personality love. Soul love is on oneness. Personality level it is on differences. Finally my great teacher kirtie says” no one loves any one. They love the lord. It is the lord love they are trying to find. Human love graduates in to divine love”. The so called egoistic behavior, arrogant and disrespectful behavior will come to an end sooner or later. What we forget to learn from our parents, our spouse will teach, what we forget with our spouse children will teach us, what we forget with the children disease will teach us and what we forget in the disease death will teach us. After death the same cycle of parents, spouse and children continues. Enemies, relatives or office colleagues are buffers to learn on love. What we do not learn well in the house we learn in office or with relatives or friends. A man use to torture his wife by keeping quite and not telling what he likes. He had boss who was silent and who never use to tell what his performance was. A man use to shout at his wife who used to keep quite. He had boss who was abusive. When ever you have unhappy incident ask yourself where you are hurting others. Sooner or later one will see the connections in hurt and pain. What we do to others god does it to us.
Deceit postponement avoiding the problem will give solutions temporarily. When the karmic squeeze will happens immense agony will be created. There was a lady who used to be very violent in verbal expression. Her son became violent with her and she could not tolerate.
Cutting of the relationship, acting as if other person does not exist, being quite in the need of the hour is another way of postponing lessons on love. There is no bad karma or karma we try to understand on love. Love means balance between self and other, truth and love, kindness vs. being strict. These are various aspects to love. Just like diamond has various facets love has various facets.
One day teacher told me “many people think they understand on love what we understand is on loving which is partial. Only the lord understands the mammoth ness on love. The greatest rule of love is to do unto others as other would like to do for you. The reverse of the rule is do not do unto others what you do not what others to do for you. Love has quality and quantity. Some people can love one or two people. They do not have capacity to love other people. They think that their family is all they can love. They do not mind cheating or using other people as an object for their ends. Love in quality will expand number of people more and more. Many people can love till they get hurt, then they can not forgive others. They carry psychic scar for a long period of time. Some of them are adamant stubborn in the name of freedom. Our love will expand slowly and we can be loving anyone under any situation or any limitation. We love using the models taught by our parents, siblings and influences in the school. Many people just carry on those theory and models with out reflections. Only when a person meditates his understanding of love expands in higher states. One Buddhist monk wrote whom u hate, you will be born with them in the next life time. Another monk said what he will have in his next birth – his bad habits .
May I dedicate this merit to my family lineage to have correct understanding on love. May I dedicate this merit to all people family and lineage to have correct understanding on love. As love circulates may it multiply. May the differences in age gender country color language race money power fame status dissolve in to love oneness and gratitude. Our Customised Products
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