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THE PROBLEMS IN LOVE. by Chennai based K.B.Gopalakrishnan 16th MAY,2007 7:14 AM
Many meditators who are in the path of sadhana get confused with love and attachments. If one does intense meditation there comes to a point where the mind goes towards the other extreme of wanting company, feeling lonely, and wanting to communicate with people. Other words the feminine side of the mind opens up. There is always pain, confusion,diffculty in all human relationship due to death, departure, distance, differences in personality and back ground, demands etc.
First of all one who does not meditate cannot love effectively. You need regular dose of meditation to have mental and emotional digestion. Secondly one’s own unresolved fear, expectation becomes problem in relationships. When one has problems in relationship one should think how to solve it peacefully, think how u can change yourself with out changing the others. Normally the mind wants to project on others. If no one is there we will all feel happy and if others change we will be happy. These kinds of tendencies will create more problems. Try to have moderation in speech, food, sleep and interaction. Any thing in one extreme will lead to problems. For example if one goes on talking, sooner or later other person would like talk. Just like there is listening and talking balance, there is balance in everything. Being too strict one will have problems, being too lenient one will have problems. Balance is heaven’s first law. Be thankful for small things people do, Loving people who are in front of you and treating them as sacred gift will solve lot of problems. Try to make other happy instead of making oneself happy. Your life will be lot more meaningful with these attitudes. Some time close people can be bitter, negative and angry. One can learn to react to them instead of attacking, criticizing and putting them down. Not retaliating will make life lot more peaceful. try to meditate on ephermalness of life, on death, on thankfulness and relationships will suddenly become intense and meaningful. Our Customised Products
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