METHODS TO RESOLVE CONFLICT BY K.B.GOPALAKRISHNAN

METHODS TO RESOLVE CONFLICT

by Chennai based K.B.Gopalakrishnan

19th, June,2007 10:00AM

There are 6 steps which will bring peace in any relationship. They are as follows

Gratitude.
Repentance.
Asking forgiveness.
Atonement.
seeking protection
Blessing every one.

If done every day even for 30 days it will produce very miraculous result in relationship. It will bring in happiness not only for you but for entire lineage. Any kind of difficult relationship will dissolve slowly peace and harmony will prevail in your life.

A. Gratitude- just say God Thank You So Much For Every Thing. Thank for food clothing shelter, house to live and people to love. Mentally say thanks to your spouse, children etc.,. Think of one good quality which you feel is good about the people you live with. Force yourself to think differently each day.

B. Repentance and Asking Forgiveness- the second step is saying "God, I m sorry. I have hurt people with my words, action, thoughts and feelings. I sincerely say sorry for what I have done". Say sorry to your parents, to your spouse, to your children or to any one. If you know some incident, recollect and simply say sorry. If you want more esoteric then look in to 12 inches in the soul star or in the heart chakra say sorry truly from your heart. Saying sorry does mean you are lower than the other person and the other person is victorious. It is a simple way of acknowledging humanness in simple manner and it raises the soul from gross. Tell yourself I mentally forgive people for any of the wrong doing. I release them totally and fully.

C. atonement - chants a holy verse or give something like sweet or sour item for a few days. For example some one can chant om shanthi shanthi shanthi for 1008 times and dedicate it to the relationship. This is called prayachitta. It raises the soul from gross, builds up the energy and raises the relationship to understanding acceptance and appreciation.

D. seeking protection- dear god, please make me bring in love in my thoughts actions and words. May I not hurt people. May I speak truth with love and love people with patience, understanding and acceptance. I seek the protection. May mind and heart be open to learning lesson of love faster. Clear me of doubts and confusion, may I seek to serve your holy will. I seek mercy, compassion and guidance from thee.

E. bless your husband, wife, children, parents, friends, clients and every one whom you know or what you care. This blessing will bring lot of peace in your life. What you give is what one receives.

Normally doing this meditation at the end of the day, one will feel peaceful, happy, soft and light. If you have difficult employee or husband or habit of some one you want to change, wife etc. just do this every day. In the same order this will help you to dissolve much of the problems.

THERE ARE OTHER TIPS-

Think how to serve people instead of how they should serve you. When one serves people there is expansion of energy, and selfishness dissolves. This brings in happiness for self and others.

Do not speak ill of any one fault. One’s own fault will become big.

Learn to forgive people constantly. Brooding and revenge only will spoil your health. It god’s plan. So let god be judge and jury.

Be kind in words but speak the truth. This paradox is needed. Many a times people keep quite or tell truth harshly. using the approach of balance any one will resolve the paradox.