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HOW DOES ONE PERSON LISTEN by Chennai based K.B.Gopalakrishnan 19th, June,2007 10:00AM
This is good quality give by god universally. Only when there is grace of god or guru or blessing of parents, one listens to wise counsel.
Listening has a time, place, people, mood, direction, number of times or repetition to make one some one understand.
My wife says in a nice manner that making other people listen to you require time effort energy and lot of analysis." this is not possible for every one. Yet it require all the above three component.
Secondly check whether you are communicating from the point of ego or from point of love. If you try to tell the kids with ego like I am big, great, elder they will not listen. Tell them with feeling and love they will listen. So more the ego lesser the listening.
Check whether u have the same problems. People who have similar problems tend to advice others correctly but will not implement it. If you have same problem then learn to solve it instead of advising others.
Check whether you are distracted from real problems. Many a time people have severe problems. They will be good in advising others. This was one of the main blocks I had. I use to get involved with other’s problem when I had personal problems. Learn to let go.
Number of times of listening for a change to happen will vary from people to people. Bigger the problem greater then number of period or times of listening. For example trying to stop a child from having or eating chocolates will require lot of effort. Just once when some one understands by listening to you means it is luck or fluke or some kind of siddhi you have in speaking. That is why not all the people who listened to Buddha got enlightenment.
There is time, place, direction to make people are more receptive. Some people are more receptive in the morning, some more in the bed, some people listen well while driving, some in east or west. Check all these before you give advice.
In general good thing should be told in the right ear for men and left ear for women . For negative things left ear of men and right ear of men should be used.
Pray god before you advise some one, because only with gods grace they listen.
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